How to Delegate a Career-Defining Project to Someone Who Doesn't Believe They Can Do It
Your biggest client — 20% of annual revenue — needs a complete portal redesign in six weeks. Your senior designer is on parental leave. The only person with the skill to do this is Sam, who is currently sitting across from you with a look that says "please don't give me bad news." Sam redesigned the internal dashboard last quarter. It was elegant, thorough, and delivered on time. The client VP called it "the best internal tool I've used." Sam's response to that praise was: "I mean, it was just an internal project." That sentence is the entire problem. Sam has talent that their self-doubt is actively working to suppress. Your job right now is not to assign a project. It is to make someone believe they are the person you already know they are.
Why This Conversation Goes Wrong
You lead with the pressure. "This is our biggest client and the deadline is tight" as an opener tells Sam exactly how catastrophic failure would be before they've even agreed to the work. Their anxiety spikes and every reassurance that follows sounds hollow.
You rely on generic encouragement. "You'll be great!" and "I believe in you!" are things people say to children before a piano recital. They are not evidence. Sam's brain is running a courtroom — it needs exhibits, not cheerleading.
You over-prescribe the solution. Walking Sam through every deliverable, every design decision, every checkpoint communicates the opposite of trust. "I believe in you but I'm going to tell you exactly what to do" is a contradiction that anxious people detect instantly.
You frame it as "no one else is available." "With Maya on leave, you're the only option" is the worst possible framing. Sam does not hear "we need you." Sam hears "you are the last resort." That sentence will echo in their head every time the project gets hard.
Anchor and Release
People with imposter syndrome do not need motivation. They need evidence. The Anchor and Release method works by first anchoring their confidence to a specific, undeniable past success — and then gradually releasing responsibility in a way that builds on that foundation rather than demanding a leap of faith.
Anchor to a specific win
"I want to talk about the dashboard you shipped last quarter. Specifically, the way you solved the data visualization problem that the senior team had been stuck on for two months. That wasn't luck. That was design skill." Cite a specific, technical accomplishment that Sam cannot dismiss as trivial. The more specific the anchor, the harder it is for their inner critic to argue with it.
Connect the anchor to the new challenge
"The client portal needs the same kind of thinking — understanding a complex workflow and making it feel simple. That is literally what you just proved you can do." Draw a direct line between proven capability and new requirement. You are not asking Sam to do something unprecedented. You are asking them to do what they already did, in a new context.
Name the fear before they do
"I know this feels bigger. It's a client-facing project, the timeline is tight, and the visibility is high. I'd be surprised if you weren't nervous." Acknowledging the fear out loud takes away its power. Sam no longer has to pretend to be confident. They can be nervous and capable at the same time.
Build the scaffolding together
"Here's what I'm thinking: weekly design reviews with me, direct access to the client stakeholder, and an escalation path if anything feels stuck. What else would help you feel set up for success?" The scaffolding is not a safety net — it is a collaboration structure. And asking Sam what they need turns them from a passenger into a co-pilot.
Release with explicit ownership
"This is your project. I'm not going to hover. I trust your judgment on the design decisions — that's why you're here." The word "your" matters. Ownership is the antidote to imposter syndrome because it is harder to feel like a fraud when someone is publicly betting on you.
The moment that changes everything
Sam doesn't need confidence. Sam needs proof.
Imposter syndrome is not a deficit of confidence. It is a deficit of evidence. Sam has been discounting every accomplishment as a fluke — the dashboard was "just internal," the client compliment was "probably just being nice," the on-time delivery was "nothing special." Each success gets filed under luck rather than skill. Generic encouragement fails because it adds to the stack of nice-sounding things that Sam's brain dismisses. What breaks through is something Sam cannot argue with: "You solved the data visualization problem that the senior team spent two months stuck on. I watched you do it. That wasn't luck." Specificity is what separates evidence from flattery. When Sam hears a concrete, irrefutable example of their own competence, the inner critic runs out of counterarguments. They may not suddenly feel confident, but they will feel something more useful: committed.
What to Say (and What Not To)
Instead of
"You'll be fine — don't worry about it."
Try this
"The dashboard you shipped last quarter required exactly this kind of thinking. That's not a coincidence."
Instead of
"With Maya on leave, we really need you to step up."
Try this
"I specifically want you on this because of what you demonstrated on the dashboard project."
Instead of
"Just do your best — that's all we can ask."
Try this
"Your best on the last project was better than most people's best on any project. I'm not worried about quality."
Instead of
"Let me know if you need help."
Try this
"We'll do weekly design reviews together, and you'll have direct access to the client stakeholder. What else would help?"
The Bigger Picture
A 2024 KPMG study found that 75% of executive women and 65% of executive men have experienced imposter syndrome at some point in their careers. But the research that should change how managers delegate comes from the International Journal of Behavioral Science: imposter syndrome does not correlate with actual competence. The people who feel least qualified are often among the highest performers. Sam's self-doubt is not a signal of weakness. It is a signal of standards so high that meeting them never feels like enough.
The cost of poor delegation is measured in two currencies: project outcomes and people outcomes. A 2023 Harvard Business Review analysis of 332 managers found that those who delegated with "anchored confidence" — citing specific past successes rather than general encouragement — saw 40% higher task completion rates and 55% higher employee satisfaction with the assignment. The difference was not in what was delegated, but in how the delegation conversation happened.
There is a long game here that most managers miss. The way you assign this project becomes part of Sam's internal narrative. If they succeed — and they probably will — they will either remember it as "the project my manager believed in me for" or "the project I got stuck with because no one else was available." One of those stories builds a career. The other builds a resume update.
Practice This Conversation
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